80th Birthday

What after you have seen 1,000 moons? Life for many of us is not about artistic genius or business impact. It is about small pleasures, rich relationships and the ability to make peace with your soul The Good Life | Shoba Narayan Posted: Fri, Aug 17 2012. 8:32 PM IST In the last six months,…

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Idealism and Love

My latest My Life column for The National’s M magazine Shoba Narayan on idealising your spouse Shoba Narayan Mar 29, 2012  After 20 years of marriage, I am no longer the dewy-eyed newlywed who believes her husband can do no wrong. Now I view my husband’s shortcomings with stoic realism. Knowing his flaws, I believe,…

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My Life: Writing

My life: Shoba Narayan on being born to write Shoba Narayan Feb 29, 2012 My mother doesn’t read my articles but she thinks I am a terrific writer. Out of this seeming paradox springs my attitude and approach towards writing. ■ My Life: Shoba Narayan on rice ■ My Life: Shoba Narayan on her long-lasting marriage It…

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Party Animal?

My Life: negotiating new roles as we age Shoba Narayan Jan 4, 2012   I’ve noticed a curious phenomenon: men get more introverted as they get older and women more extroverted. I see it in several of my married friends. The husbands want to spend their evenings at home. The wives want to go out.…

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Mother in law

The problem with the mother-in-law Shoba Narayan Jan 8, 2011   Two women who love the same man is hardly the recipe for a friendship. I speak not of extramarital affairs or bigamy, but of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. In India, where I live, this misunderstood, maligned “saas-bahu” relationship dominates the collective psyche.…

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Matchmaking Tiffin

My Life: Indian matchmaking takes a tiffin or two Shoba Narayan Jan 29, 2011   My husband, Ram, and I met over tiffin and tea one rainy afternoon in November 1991. We had an Indian arranged marriage, and as was the custom our horoscopes were matched, our families met and deemed each other compatible, and…

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Conflict about Facebook

Does this essay which appeared in M magazine explain my conflict about Facebook? Here in the M website and pasted below. My life: Shoba Narayan on social networking Shoba Narayan Dec 7, 2011 As a memoir writer and columnist, I am comfortable with the first-person narrative. I write about the events and people in my…

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About A Pet. Inji darling. RIP.

A very very hard piece to write.  I wrote reams of prose and then rewrote it countless times.  This has been in the works for the last four months.  Finally worked up the nerve to send it and have it published.  Not going to show it to my kids.  Don’t know if they can handle…

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Global Village for The National

My life: the global village Shoba Narayan Oct 12, 2011   Ten years ago, I sat at the window of my Manhattan high-rise, watching a plane fly overhead and wishing I were on it. It was a cold day in November and I held my newborn second daughter in my arms. For most of my…

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Kolkata Durga Puja for Mint

This piece came out in Mint Lounge this week. When Kolkata Turns into a Temporary Museum The Good Life | Shoba Narayan  It is 1am, but the Shiv Mandir para(neighbourhood) in Kolkata is hopping. Shorts-clad young men named Deb and Dickie are working alongside about 20 artisans who are erecting what seems to be a gigantic…

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