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My life is a web of relationships. The great Indian joint family.

Messy, loving, crazy, contradictory, complex, never easy

But it defines who I am and what I value.

Connections: between people, place and time.

First cousins
Second cousins

Do relationships make you or do you make them?

With love comes the ability to forgive. Only if you are able to forgive can you overlook slights, flaws, mistakes and miscommunication

While the Dalai Lama talks about loving-kindness meditation as a way to bridge divides, it is essentially about assuming goodwill.

Relationships are defined by connection

Connections can happen perchance but require care to flourish. Ultimately, it is these connections that define the human experience.

This web of connections floats to the surface in cultures such as India, where people are forced into proximity, thanks to density. What you do with (and to) the people around you defines character.

How you behave in times of stress depends on how you value what is at hand.

Relationships and connections are supreme in the path to happiness.

Relationship columns

Sleepovers for The National M magazine

I am part of a rotating group of columnists who write for The National's M magazine. My editor, Rick Arthur has the courteousness of a Southern gentleman but having never met him, I don't know if he is American or [...]

Tone of voice for Mint Lounge

This week's column for Mint Lounge about how you say what you say. Click here for Mint's website Pasted below Posted: Thu, Mar 17 2011. 8:39 PM IST Columns What does your email say about you? In today’s geographically diffused [...]

A night out with girlfriends

This essay appeared in M magazine of The National. Click here for the link. A night out with girlfriends is simply good therapy Shoba Narayan Last Updated: Mar 22, 2011 My three girlfriends and I went out one night recently [...]

Men who listen to their wives for The National

Here is the article on The National site. Here it is below. Untold riches await those men who listen to their wives Shoba Narayan Last Updated: Mar 29, 2011 Lucky Shyam Shewaramani. He won a Dh1 million lottery by listening [...]

Marriages for The National

My Life: Shoba Narayan on her long-lasting marriage Shoba Narayan Last Updated: Apr 19, 2011 For The National M magazine Unlike Kate and Prince William, I had an arranged marriage. Ram, my husband, and I never dated, and knew each [...]

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