Carol Look works on a seeming paradox: fear of success. We all say that we want to be successful, and then hold ourselves back; do something to sabotage ourselves. This is both a truth and her conviction. Some of us say that we want (more than anything else) to start our own company and then procrastinate, or do other things, or stagnate. Some of us say that we want to be famous and then refuse to put ourselves “out there” on Twitter or other social media. Through internal biases and deep-rooted unconscious convictions, we don’t act on our stated desires. Look tries to peel away these unconscious self-constraints through EFT and tapping.
She starts with two simple questions: What is the downside of becoming successful? What is the upside of playing small?
And then she probes, using EFT tapping spots to push the thought. Some people are afraid of success because they feel that it will change them. So she asks: why is success dangerous, and why does staying under the radar seem safe? She asks if you are worried about displeasing others by rocking the boat; if you are anxious about keeping up the pace of success; worried about someone’s jealousy; and whether you don’t feel safe about being successful.
Then she goes to the flip side. How does it serve you to hide or play small? And she gives a whole host of reasons: I won’t get criticized if I play small. I don’t want to be visible and if I get successful, I would get noticed and pulled down. I don’t have to deal with everyone’s expectations if I am not successful. I don’t like the responsibility of being successful. If I am successful, I will leave my loved ones behind. If I become rich, my brothers will be sad. Hiding my gifts, staying under the radar will protect me from the evil eye of others.
What about being visible would be dangerous? Look’s goal is to “trigger you” to see where your emotional vibrations are. Then, she uses tapping to clear the internal and emotional conflicts that hold you back.
It takes at least a dozen sessions of about 30 minutes each to do her online. A lot of it is listening and repeating the scripts that Look has created. She says them, you say them, and you tap at prescribed places. At the end of it, you analyze if your emotional charge has changed, whether you feel less anxious about “shining,” as she calls it.