Mothers and Daughters

I love writing for The National.  It is hard for my family to access– certainly for my kids– so it is easy to be open.  This one is a piece on a topic that is so close to my heart (and heartbreak).  It goes out to all mothers with teenage daughters.  As for the Dads…

Idealism and Love

My latest My Life column for The National’s M magazine Shoba Narayan on idealising your spouse Shoba Narayan Mar 29, 2012  After 20 years of marriage, I am no longer the dewy-eyed newlywed who believes her husband can do no wrong. Now I view my husband’s shortcomings with stoic realism. Knowing his flaws, I believe,…

My Life: Writing

My life: Shoba Narayan on being born to write Shoba Narayan Feb 29, 2012 My mother doesn’t read my articles but she thinks I am a terrific writer. Out of this seeming paradox springs my attitude and approach towards writing. ■ My Life: Shoba Narayan on rice ■ My Life: Shoba Narayan on her long-lasting marriage It…

Rice

My Life: Shoba Narayan on rice Shoba Narayan Feb 1, 2012   People want different things on a cold winter night: a piping hot bowl of soup or the seductive richness of, say, foie gras. I crave steaming hot rice. It could be Malaysian nasi lemak, Saudi Arabian kabsa, Iranian pilaf, Pakistani biryani, Indian tamarind…

Party Animal?

My Life: negotiating new roles as we age Shoba Narayan Jan 4, 2012   I’ve noticed a curious phenomenon: men get more introverted as they get older and women more extroverted. I see it in several of my married friends. The husbands want to spend their evenings at home. The wives want to go out….

Mother in law

The problem with the mother-in-law Shoba Narayan Jan 8, 2011   Two women who love the same man is hardly the recipe for a friendship. I speak not of extramarital affairs or bigamy, but of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. In India, where I live, this misunderstood, maligned “saas-bahu” relationship dominates the collective psyche….

Matchmaking Tiffin

My Life: Indian matchmaking takes a tiffin or two Shoba Narayan Jan 29, 2011   My husband, Ram, and I met over tiffin and tea one rainy afternoon in November 1991. We had an Indian arranged marriage, and as was the custom our horoscopes were matched, our families met and deemed each other compatible, and…

Conflict about Facebook

Does this essay which appeared in M magazine explain my conflict about Facebook? Here in the M website and pasted below. My life: Shoba Narayan on social networking Shoba Narayan Dec 7, 2011 As a memoir writer and columnist, I am comfortable with the first-person narrative. I write about the events and people in my…

Food piece for The National

My column for The National’s M magazine, edited by the divine Rick Arthur and Helena Powell.  Click here for the latest one.  Also pasted below. Great meals forge a connection to their place and time Shoba Narayan Nov 16, 2011 Foods have a connection to place but not an obvious one. To explain, I must…

Global Village for The National

My life: the global village Shoba Narayan Oct 12, 2011   Ten years ago, I sat at the window of my Manhattan high-rise, watching a plane fly overhead and wishing I were on it. It was a cold day in November and I held my newborn second daughter in my arms. For most of my…

Religion for The National

This piece came out in the My Life column I write for M magazine. My Life: Shoba Narayan Shoba Narayan Sep 14, 2011   Can you value your traditions without being overtly religious? It is a dilemma many of my 30- and 40-something friends face. We have grown up in fairly religious households. We are…

About Kolkata’s Mamoon Akhtar

This ran during the Ramzan-Eid season in The National, Abu Dhabi A harbinger of hope for Kolkata’s poor Shoba Narayan Aug 20, 2011   With their bright smiles, curious eyes and dark hair, Urmin and Sabina, 8, look like typical school-going children; except they aren’t. Until recently, both these girls peddled drugs for their parents,…