What’s the best way to navigate your way through old age?
October 15, 2014 Updated: October 15, 2014 06:31 PM
My mind has recently been full of sobering thoughts about death, taxes and ageing and the question of how to age gracefully?
The literature on ageing lists many activities that can help us as we get older. Exercise is an obvious one, as is developing a close and nurturing group of friends and family. There is one virtue, however, that is underplayed in many studies about ageing and that is cultivating a passion. This is difficult to do, mostly because we don’t realise its importance until we are too old.
Most adults attempt to live rich and fulfilling lives. Look around at your friends and colleagues. We all have jobs that are sometimes tedious but mostly engaging. We have hobbies. We play golf or tennis. We read a bit before sleeping. We follow a few television shows. We have social networks and we go to restaurants and maintain friendships. What many of us lack is a passion that we can turn to. Work doesn’t count unless it can be parlayed after retirement. If you are an art historian, for instance, you can still be engaged in art studies after retirement.
I know a few people who have this passion for a particular activity.
My brother-in-law in Florida is a physician with a busy private practice. His weekends, however, are devoted to his passion: epigraphy or the study of ancient inscriptions. He collects data on the Indus Valley civilisation and its scripts. He reads reams of literature, talks to scholars from all over the world via Skype, attends conferences and takes online courses. Sometimes an entire weekend will go by without him ever leaving his library.
But what about the rest of us? Perhaps the way to find a solution is to imbue the question with some urgency.
Think about it this way: who is going to hang out with you when you are 80 years old? No matter how affectionate our children are, there comes a point when they are too busy for us, and often, this point comes sooner than we want.
Ageing involves solitude whether you like it or not. Your world shrinks, your friends die and you have to figure out how to keep your mind occupied. Cheery thought, isn’t it?
Sailing through the choppy waters of advanced age involves figuring out an activity that will engage and energise you. Music, for instance, offers great potential for relaxation.
The way to convert this into a passion is to take music appreciation courses.
Similarly, playing chess does not require you to do heavy lifting. It can be played with any child that walks through the door.
If you happen to be spiritually inclined, this is the time to take a deep dive into your religion because, at the end of the day we all have to confront questions about our maker and our role in this world.
Ageing gracefully does not only means slathering on expensive creams and lotions. It can just as easily involve mental somersaults that will leave you refreshed and glad to be alive.
Shoba Narayan is the author of Return to India: a memoir
Or if one has not developed interests, one can always become a citizen scientist like this gentleman:
The 71 year old retired police inspector from Gateshead who discovered a new planet from his armchair – and scientists say it could help us find alien life
Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencetech/article-2259561/The-71-year-old-Gateshead-discovered-new-planet–scientists-say-help-alien-life.html#ixzz3GJVXCKEJ
Wow!! That is going to be you, Vijee
This has to be the money quote right?
Mr Jackson said: ‘There is nothing worth watching on the television and there’s only so much gardening you can do and you have to have other things to fill your time in.
It also inspired this cartoon I think: https://twitter.com/SciencePorn/status/522730687208910848/photo/1
I am going to follow science porn. Thanks Vijee